Fear of failure, fear of change, even fear of success can hold you back from creating a life by design. Uncertainty and doubt can and will erode your self confidence and lower your self esteem. The one thing in life you can be sure of, is we all have fear. Being afraid is a normal part of living but letting fear hold the key to your happiness will undoubtedly affect your joy for living.
The first step to eliminating fear is identifying the cause. Self talk is ineffective unless you understand the root of the problem. When fear overrules your life it effects both your mind and body.
We talk to ourselves all day every day. Except most of the time we say negative things to ourselves.
“Nobody likes me”
“I can’t get anything right”
“I don’t know what’s wrong with me”
“I’m so dumb”
Does any of this sound familiar?
Self-talk is more then just positive thinking and positive talk. Thinking about something and never taking action is just thinking. Yes you’ll feel better but it will have a limited impact on your life unless you take that thinking and add a quotient of action.
So when you look at it that way, self-talk at least effective self-talk, is action talk. You can say to yourself all day everyday for a year “I’m successful” but if there’s no action behind the words it’s pretty meaningless.
Do not let fear control your life. Self-talk will help you to do anything you want when your use positive thinking. Some people are afraid to climb over a fence. To overcome this fear of going over the fence, tell yourself you can do it. Face it and force yourself to go over the fence to the other side. Overcoming a fear systematically and self-talk your way through each step will help you to accomplish this fear. Think positive you can and will do it to succeed.
The key is to talk small steps every day. When a negative thought comes into your mind reverse it with something positive. And most importantly take an action step to reinforce the positive self-talk.
You are in control of your own desitiny, by the actions you take each and every day. Be self-aware, and self-confident to improve your self-esteem.
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