For years, I believed that “time heals all wounds” — because everyone said it was the right thing to do.
But here’s the truth: Most people get this completely wrong.
In fact, blindly trusting time alone to heal trauma can actually keep you stuck longer—and if you’ve been struggling to move on after a toxic or narcissistic relationship, this might be the reason why.
Let’s break down the biggest myths about emotional healing and what actually works instead.
❌ Myth #1: “You just need more time to get over it.”
Many people believe that time alone is the key to healing emotional trauma. But in reality, it often leads to prolonged suffering, repressed emotions, and a life spent avoiding triggers.
Example:
“I kept waiting to feel better after leaving my ex, thinking time would take care of the pain. But months later, I was still having panic attacks and couldn’t trust anyone.”
🚀 The Truth:
Instead of waiting for time to magically fix everything, the real solution is actively working with your nervous system using techniques like EFT Tapping. This approach gently rewires emotional pain and helps you release trauma at its root.
✔️ Try this instead:
Set aside just 5 minutes a day for an EFT Tapping session. Start by saying, “Even though I still feel this pain, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Tap through the points and notice what shifts.
❌ Myth #2: “You have to forgive them to heal.”
Another common belief is that you must forgive your abuser or toxic ex in order to move on. But this actually puts more pressure on survivors and can delay authentic healing.
Example:
“I thought forgiving him was the only way to find peace. But every time I tried, I felt like I was betraying myself.”
🚀 The Truth:
You don’t need to force forgiveness. What works way better is reclaiming your power and processing your emotions safely, so that forgiveness—if it comes—feels true and freeing, not forced.
✔️ Try this instead:
Focus on self-forgiveness first. Use EFT to release guilt for “staying too long” or “missing the signs.” That’s where real peace begins.
❌ Myth #3: “You should be over it by now.”
And perhaps the biggest myth of all? That healing should be fast, linear, or easy—especially if it’s been “a while.”
Example:
“I kept thinking something was wrong with me because I was still crying over someone who hurt me years ago.”
🚀 The Truth:
Once I stopped believing this myth and embraced trauma-informed, body-based healing tools like tapping, journaling, and breathwork, everything changed. I no longer judged my journey—I honored it.
✔️ Try this instead:
Replace “I should be over this” with “My healing is valid, no matter how long it takes.” Then tap on it until it feels true in your body.
💡 The Bottom Line: What Actually Works
If you’ve been following the old advice about trauma recovery and not seeing results, it’s not your fault.
The truth is, trauma isn’t just “in your mind”—it lives in the body. And once you start using tools like EFT Tapping, you can begin to calm your nervous system, rewire emotional patterns, and feel safe in your own skin again.
If you’re ready to ditch the myths and take your healing into your own hands, I put together a free guide to help you:
✅ Learn the exact tapping technique that’s helped thousands of women release trauma
✅ Understand why your trauma still hurts—and what to do about it
✅ Start healing in a way that feels safe, empowering, and truly lasting
👉 Grab it here: Download “Trauma Healing Workbook” and start seeing results today! 🚀
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